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March 19, 2012

I Just Had Sex!

*This post first appeared on the Good Vibrations Magazine*

Technology has wiggled its way into the way we live our lives and has become a primary tool for communication. Now, instead of just only our close friends and family knowing about the things going on in our lives, social media has allowed us to reach an unfathomable audience. For example, when you update your status on Facebook the over 500 million users, over half of which log in every day, guarantees you have an audience. That is a lot of people knowing about the birth of your baby or how gross your lunch was that day.

Several organizations are taking advantage of the obsession the world has with social media and sharing personal information. One such organization is Planned Parenthood of the Great Northwest (PPGNW). Recently, they introduced a new safe-sex campaign that, according to their website, is geared toward letting people know they are one of many “smart, sexy, and responsible people” using safe-sex practices. The concept involves either scanning the QR (Quick Response) code on the new PPGNW condoms with your smart phone or “checking in” on the campaign’s website. You then input information about your gender, your partner’s gender, and details about where and why you used the condom and how good the sex was, all of which is displayed on the website’s map. You can also post your response to Twitter and Facebook.
Here are some examples of individuals using safe-sex practices across the country:

Near Boulder, Colorado: “A 20 something girl and a guy whose relationship is non-existent and have already talked about safer sex and STDs used a condom in the bedroom because no one wants an STD. It was ah-maz-ing – rainbows exploded and mountains trembled.”

Near San Francisco, California: “A 30 something guy and a guy whose relationship is all about love and have already talked about safer sex and STDs used a condom in the bedroom because no one wants an STD. It was great – can’t wait for round 2.”

Near Springfield, Illinois: “An under 20 transgender person and a guy whose relationship is just for fun and have not yet talked about safer sex and STDs used a condom in a secret spot to help the love last a little longer. It was ah-maz-ing – rainbows exploded and mountains trembled.”

What is great to see is that the younger generation is not the only ones “checking in” about their safer sex practices. On the map, there are those under 20 all the way to individuals 50 and over. Further, individuals from the whole spectrum of sexual orientations and relationships are represented on the map. Thus, it is great to see that the map visually demonstrates the variety in sexuality.

Although the intent of this safe-sex campaign is to help people see there are others out there that use condoms during sex, thus normalizing their use, it is curious to consider how revealing on the internet when you have sex, where, and how good it was contributes to one’s need to kiss-and-tell about their sexual experiences.

According to a small survey on my blog asking “Do You Kiss and Tell?”, 27 percent of the respondents indicated they never kiss and tell, 27 percent kiss and tell only when something is good, 36 percent kiss and tell all the time, and the remaining 9 percent responded with “other”. With at least 63 percent of the respondents partaking in kissing and telling about their sexual experiences, will we soon commonly see someone post “I just had sex” on their social networking site? This reminds me of a song by The Lonely Island featuring Akon called “I Just Had Sex” where they sing, “I just had sex, and it felt so good…I want to tell the world”.


Although this song was meant as a joke, it is not far off from our current ability to virtually kiss-and-tell to the masses. With options that escalate the distribution of information, like the “status update” on Facebook, we have at our fingertips the ability to include amongst the posts of our tough meeting or fantastic workout, about when we have sex and how good it was. The PPGNW safe-sex campaign has started an online discussion, but will it become a common inclusion in our social media dialogue? Is it a good thing or a bad thing that the details of our sex session last night no longer has to exist in the whispers between friends, but can now be broadcasted over the internet for the world to hear. Are our senses of privacy waning in the wake of the social media wave, or is this wave finally the much-needed lift our society needs to accept discussions on sex and sexuality and bring the dialogue out in the open?

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